8/3/2022
Starting point to de-escalating an argument quickly and also a mindset you should have in any discussion your spouse may want to have:
1: Presume innocence. Your spouse is an innocent person. If you start by thinking, this person isn't doing this to hurt me. This person isn't doing this because they think I am a terrible person and they are the person I have chosen to be with for the rest of my life.
When you begin by looking at them and thinking they love me and they want to be with me until the end of time, you don't start from a defensive or offensive point.
2: During that time of pausing and presuming innocence, take a step back and make sure it's the right timing. It's not that the conversation shouldn't be had, but making sure when you have the conversation, that the person you are having the conversation with is at a place of being able to receive it and you are at place of being able to say it in such a way where they can receive it.
Doing these things will help you ease into a conversation rather than crashing into an argument.
Never go to bed angry. That doesn't mean that you can't continue the conversation in the morning. Not going to bed angry as scripture says means even if nothing is resolved and you aren't finished with the conversation, put away the anger. Tell each other I love you and I am committed to you, hug and kiss and say I'll see you in the morning.
Remember, not going to bed angry is important because we are never promised tomorrow.
Prayer for morning:
Yahuah, remind me of Drew's strengths. Remind me of the favor You've shown him. Remind me of the evidences of the work You're doing in his chai.
Remind me of why chai is difficult for him right now, Yahuah help me to see the challenges he faces.
Father, I pray for supernatural understanding.
How do I help influence and affirm him in a positive way.
What can I do to help him in the area of his life that he is stressed in the most.
It's in Yahshua's name I ask and pray these things. Ahmein.
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